In addition to it being a new environment, for an expat child, going to a new school can be exciting or nerve-wracking. There are some ways to support both parents and children cope mentally and emotionally with such a transition.

  • Preparation is the key for successful transitions, some children cope with changes well and adapt quickly and easily, others need more attention and time depending on their age and time of the move (mid year or in summer).  As a parent tries to maintain a positive attitude about the transition; he or she should equip themselves with reassurance, positivity and confidence.
  •  Great placement at the beginning of the transition is helpful by describing the situation and reasons of moving using simple language. Kids generally are not part of the parent’s decision to move and might not understand it. They would need special attention during that period to have some time to adjust. Answer all their questions truthfully, understand their reactions even if they are negative, and involve them in the planning as they will be feeling part of the change rather than feel it enforced on them. (ex. In searching for a new house or school…)
  • Get acquainted with the city, the geography of the area, the malls, landmarks and parks surrounding the new home environment; this helps a child know what the other children already know.
  • Research play centers and recreational facilities around the city. Join a local community or support group, this will increase your opportunity to meet new families and setup play dates for your children.
  • Visit the school premises, get to know the classroom, cafeteria, play areas, gym… walk through the premises with your child, meet the school personnel, and the teacher if possible before school starts.
  • Drive to the school together many times before actually school starts – getting used to the route from the house to the school will help the child familiarize (him/her) self better with the daily school route.
  • Socialize and meet new parents; forming friendship in new countries start mainly with parents of friends at school, host simple dinners, get together with other moms, be a role model for your child by establishing new relationships.
  • Open your house to your child’s friends; this will help your child form new friendships in his/her comfort zone.
  • Encourage your child to join after school activities and join clubs where children share the same interests whether these revolve around sports or academics.
  • Advise your child to walk and act assertively and confidently, to smile and make eye contact and to introduce themselves to teachers and other students.

Consider this period as an opportunity to form new relationships, meet new people, understand a new culture, and enrich your knowledge and information with regards to a new country,  a valuable experience to cherish and good memories to keep.

Linda Chaccour – ACC – Founder and Managing Director @ Emerge coaching – Certified Youth, Parent and Family Coach

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